I'm a little irritated with myself, disappointed, even, at thinking that, at anytime in history before 'now' (being something like 1980 - present day), sex was not a prevalent or even common past time among people. Now, I know that sounds ridiculous, and of course without sex there would be no more human beings, as it is required in order to propagate the species. I'm not talking about that, so much as just discussions or excursions into the sexual nature of man in general. Whenever I think of the past, I think of Victorian era men and women in fancy clothes, sipping tea; or bloodthirsty soldiers charging into battle or some other cliche depiction of any historical event that comes to mind.

One thing that never occurs to me is the sexual practices of these societies, or how things of that nature were viewed by these people. I always imagine it being even more of a social faux pas than it is now, and just never being talked about by anybody; but I have to realize/understand that most of the literature and history of these eras is being written/documented/created by the upper classes, the educated, and the elite of that time period. Certainly they are not going to harbor the same views as those held by the masses (or, if they do, will certainly not admit to it openly and show that they, too, are human just like everybody else).

I recently purchased two books which definitely seem to help me correct this false notion that sex, or talking about sex and considering it a natural thing, is relatively new. Fanny Hill and My Secret Life, and though I have only just gotten started reading the latter, already I am starting to see that sexual development and curiosity has pervaded throughout mankind far more prominently than I would have previously imagined.
Perhaps I should add that I am somewhat aware that sexuality was pretty open and celebrated amongst people back in ancient times, I suppose I'm referring specifically to the past 1000 years or so.

It's fascinating to learn about these practices and how they were viewed throughout history; to know how people thought about sex during these times or how important it might have been throughout individuals' lives, what they knew about STDs and other sorts of dangers related to sexual promiscuity and all of that. It's also a bit of a shock to see the word 'fuck' printed in a book published in the 1800s, as I normally have a hard time imagining anybody using profanity back then (though I know this is another fault of mine).

Sex with every girl is different, and some girls are definitely far more experienced (or just simply 'better') at it than others, but I don't really know if there is any kind of 'rating system' I would use, necessarily. Sometimes sex with somebody is really good, sometimes not so much, but generally it stays within the same 'level' (as no other term comes ot mind at this moment) overall. Sex with Mall Girl might not always be a 10/10, but it would never be worse than an 8/10, for instance.

There isn't anybody that comes to mind who I can routinely remember having boring, lame sex with. There have been girls who were boring, but we never did anything past the first time; and there have been girls who, for one reason or another, the sex just never worked out or was really bad (though I accept full responsibility where it is due); but for the most part I feel that a majority of the sex that I've had has been, for better or worse, pretty spectacular.

I feel rhythm is important, as well as touching, kissing, licking, fondling all over the body as often as possible. I am aware that some women can't get off on simply penetration, and need much more stimulation to get that pleasurable sensation. Friction (or lack thereof) is another incredibly important factor, along with position and all of that jazz. I know it's always awkward talking about sex, especially the mechanics thereof, but I think if one is able to bridge that gap and just say what they're thinking, it will go a long way in improving the lives of both participants. 

I am a little tactless when it comes to my interactions with the ladies at times, as I had an incident with RA recently whereas I thought she was asking me for any critiques or advice on sex, and I mentioned brushing her teeth and cleaning up 'down there' (as I generally love going down on women, but not so much if they're gross), which was a huge blow to her self-esteem (and making me look like a complete asshole). However, it seemed to work out alright as the next time that we did have sex (which was beyond amazing, I must add), kissing her alone was 10x better.

Man, I'm supposed to be reading Paradise Lost right now. Not looking forward to that AT ALL

So I'm sitting here, getting crazy stoned with a friend (can I say that? Is that ok?) and it hits me. I have this beautiful woman asking me to write a book with her and I have absolutely no ideas as to what to write about, but then I'm like "oh, duh, I'll write about sex!"
 Now, I know how that sounds. Like, "oh, hey, he wants to 'write a novel with her', how quaint, how unique and underground." But it's seriously not like that.
I have books that STARTED out as a blog. Stuff White People Like? Totally a fucking blog, I felt so ashamed of myself when I found that out, "like I paid money for this when I could have read it for free?" But thinking about it, I'm glad I have it. Giving somebody a book like that to borrow is so much better than "oh hey, check out this link to a blog I found and have kinda looked through it a bit," which is blowing my mind how obvious this is but whatever.

Either way, I feel like almost everything in my life has been leading up to something like this; that whole "oh, I think I'm having an epiphany" or whatever, (lol) but I think this would seriously be fucking awesome, because I'm of the persuasion that this would improve every aspect of my life (if it turns out to be successful, which it will, because everybody loves sex). I want to talk about sex, because I am so interested in learning in all walks of life, and learning about sex would be such a benefit not only to myself, but to everybody else, too. I want to feel less awkward with women, I want to talk about things that I SHOULDN'T be afraid to talk about, because I'm totally against all of that 'taboo' shit; and I think all of this stuff is SO important for people to know about, and would improve their lives SO MUCH.

That being said, it's just a blog, and so it wouldn't even be a big deal. Maybe in the future it will be a book (and that would be fucking cool as hell; but it's the journey, not the destination), but until then I would just love the chance to not only get an opportunity to write, but to write about something I really enjoy with somebody who has like so much more experience with it, and of the opposite sex!? fucking kickass, we could learn SO much. I already have discussions about this sometimes with an ex, who is really open with all of this stuff (which I really love), and I learn so much about how to be better in bed and how to know my body better.
 If people don't talk about things, how will they know? And I think this would help make me into a fucking champion (literally and figuratively), because I want to know all the ins and outs (pun intended) of how to please a woman, and if I can learn something about things that will have an active impact in my life (as well as the genitals of a number of women), then I don't know why I wouldn't try to enrich not only my life, but the lives of others (via sharing this information on some dinky little blog).

I have always tried my hardest (heh) to make the women I was with cum as many times as possible before they need a break. JD normally tires out after three, RA I think I've gotten to 6 or 7, and I'm lucky if I can get my ex to cum more than twice in one session, and I know there have been women in the past (such as MB, who I could bring to 5 almost regularly, I think our record was 8) who I have thoroughly enjoyed (jk, I have thoroughly enjoyed all of the women I've been with, and I'd like to think they could say the same).

Anyway, the whole thing that sparked all this was that me and RA are fooling around, and we get to talking and I find out that all of the things I thought she was into, she wasn't. I know sex is so much more than just the penetration that people would attribute with it, and that pleasing a woman is so much more than just getting hard and fucking the shit out of her.
That being said, I know I still could learn so much more about how to make a lady just lose it in the bedroom, and have every intention of doing so. I want to do so much in this world while I am here, and making sure I know how to have good sex is definitely something I would consider incredibly important.