I'm not sure if there is ever completely 'bad' sex. Sometimes sex might be disappointing or whatever, but I've never slept with anybody where every single thing we did was just blah, every single time.
Sometimes it might not be as exciting, but there's a whole multitude of factors that are involved with the act of coitus (aw man fancy terms for sexytime, coitus is Latin for "coming/joining together"). To write anybody off as being incompetent or bad at having sex (as a quick aside, when I think of the phrase "having sex" I generally am referring to the act of... being able to engage in foreplay, hugging, kissing, touching, undressing, etc.. Being able to maintain an erection or otherwise 'ready' yourself, and being capable of satisfying your partner (Excitement, Orgasm, Resolution)) when there are so many different things playing a part is to pass judgment on somebody before you have any right to do so.
I seem to forget that, while I am learning more about how to better my sexual technique (c'mon dude) each time I have sex with anybody, that person is probably getting the same information about ME, and each time after that the sex might not be... uh... "better", per se, but perhaps more finely tailored towards what I like/dislike. Given my perception (and that of anybody else in their own experience), I think these two things could be more or less synonymous, as my experience is the only one that I know and that ultimately matters to me. With that in mind, the more you have sex with anybody (assuming there is some sort of emotional attachment involved), the better the sex should, potentially, be.
So, even if sex the first time, and even maybe the second time, isn't all that exciting, perhaps you just have to be patient and give it some time.
Then again, what do I know about sexytime?
Sometimes it might not be as exciting, but there's a whole multitude of factors that are involved with the act of coitus (aw man fancy terms for sexytime, coitus is Latin for "coming/joining together"). To write anybody off as being incompetent or bad at having sex (as a quick aside, when I think of the phrase "having sex" I generally am referring to the act of... being able to engage in foreplay, hugging, kissing, touching, undressing, etc.. Being able to maintain an erection or otherwise 'ready' yourself, and being capable of satisfying your partner (Excitement, Orgasm, Resolution)) when there are so many different things playing a part is to pass judgment on somebody before you have any right to do so.
I seem to forget that, while I am learning more about how to better my sexual technique (c'mon dude) each time I have sex with anybody, that person is probably getting the same information about ME, and each time after that the sex might not be... uh... "better", per se, but perhaps more finely tailored towards what I like/dislike. Given my perception (and that of anybody else in their own experience), I think these two things could be more or less synonymous, as my experience is the only one that I know and that ultimately matters to me. With that in mind, the more you have sex with anybody (assuming there is some sort of emotional attachment involved), the better the sex should, potentially, be.
So, even if sex the first time, and even maybe the second time, isn't all that exciting, perhaps you just have to be patient and give it some time.
Then again, what do I know about sexytime?
